A LETTER TO MYSELF
A LETTER TO MYSELF
Have I sat and contemplated on issues that will help me to understand my ownself ? I am going to be honest and contemplate deeply before I arrive to the answers. In the process to understand the world it seems I completely forgot to understand my own self.Life has been a series of experiences and I have come this far to be what I am today.
1. Was it worth it?
Am I proud of what I am today . I should be aware whether I accept myself the way I am, after all I have given my life till the present moment to evolve into my present self.
2. Do I clearly know what I want in life and why I want it?
If I delve deep into this question it will help me to identify the deep seated desire behind my actions. I will know clearly that behind my efforts, successes and failures what was it that I have truly desired. It is important to know why I have done whatever I have done. What was the driving force behind my actions? What exactly have I been running after all these years? Which desire was it that propelled me to reach where I am today?
3. Have I actually achieved what I wanted so deeply?
I have to think beyond the layers of conditioning to reach to the core of the answer. I had to give up a lot in order to get what I got. I had to pay a price for the choices I made in life. At times making a choice was rather tough, I had to give up a lot more than I had bargained for, but nevertheless I did choose what mattered more or so I thought at that time. Some realizations I have experienced come with time only. I gave up much to have what I have today.
4. Do I feel fulfilled in the deeper sense?
I am running towards a future which I am creating through my actions knowingly or unknowingly. Are my actions creating the future I want to bring to my life?
Now that I have answered all the questions I know where I stand in life. What has gone by may never come back but I still have a choice to make the most of what I have.I now know where I have to go from where I am.
There is no doubt that we must constantly evaluate ourselves in the context of what we have set out to achieve in our life. Very often most people drift aimlessly and even recklessly because the pressures of the present dim the objectives that they set for themselves, if they have indeed set their objectives. Secondly, this cannot be a onetime exercise. It has to be a process through which individuals periodically checks their bearings to determine if they are on the intended course to achieve what they desire.
ReplyDeleteBut what about the start point, when we are young and are making our choices? A lot of youngsters err in their formative years because at that point there is no powerful mentor who can bridge the realization between what we want to be, what we can be, what we need to be and the hurdles that lie ahead.
And always and every time, we have to be prepared with choices for what course we may adopt in case the preferred course is closed or the objective seems unattainable.
Progression through life requires a person to be evolving constantly, both personally and professionally.
There is no doubt than an experienced mentor or coach can help an individual overcome blind spots, acquire new skills and remain focused.
In my opinion, again, the self evaluation process outlined by you has to be imbibed in the form of formalized coaching wherein people understand the process which will help them evaluate the successes and lack of it in a very broad perspective, because some milestones that we achieve might never have been a part of our vision when we set course early in life. And contentment is not a quantifiable analysis.